Short version: folks who’ve gone spelunking in their own heads are less allergic to other people’s weird. You read as “signal,” not “error.”

Here’s the longer, less cute answer:

• Selection bias in who does psychedelics. They skew high in openness to experience, lower in authoritarian vibes, and more novelty-seeking. Translation: they collect off-beat humans the way birders collect rare warblers.
• Temporary ego permeability. Classic 5-HT2A stuff loosens rigid self/other boundaries and the “social threat firewall.” Your intensity hits them as curiosity fuel instead of system alert.
• Cognitive flexibility and meaning-making. Trips train people to sit with ambiguity, reframe discomfort, and salvage value from chaos. Your quirks land as “texture,” not “defect.”
• Subculture norms. Psychedelic spaces reward vulnerability, consent checks, and nonjudgment. There’s a built-in script for meeting difference with warmth instead of status games.
• Attunement to authenticity. They get picky about surface-level performance. If you’re sincere, even messy, you rate higher than someone smooth but hollow.

Now, the catch you already named: psychedelics are amplifiers, not hugs. If you’re broadcasting chaos, the volume goes up. Disgust, fear, and avoidance can spike too. That’s not moral verdict; it’s salience plus unfinished integration on either side.

If you want more of the “accepting and closer” outcome without pretending to be a different species:

• Lower the threat cues. Slow your cadence 10–15 percent, make your asks small and explicit, keep your body language open. Safety beats charm every time.
• Name your intensity. “I get excited and info-dump when I care. If it’s too much, wave a hand and I’ll pause.” You just turned a trait into a collaboration.
• Offer structure. Psychedelic people like consent and clarity. “I’m looking for X tonight; Y is off the table.” Relief all around.
• Share receipts of self-work. A one-liner about therapy, meditation, or systems you use to steer yourself signals you’re not outsourcing regulation to them.

Last thing: if someone retreats after a trip, it doesn’t mean you’re radioactive. It means the mirror was a bit too honest that day. Keep doing the boring, unsexy parts of growth. Psychedelic or not, humans bond to people who can regulate, renegotiate, and repair. Even in this circus.